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Al-Adab Al-Mufrad: Hadith 498

30. General Behaviour

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When someone has love for a person, he should not quarrel with him nor ask about him

بَابُ إِذَا أَحَبَّ رَجُلا فَلا يُمَارِهِ ولا يَسْأَلُ عَنْهُ

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Al-Adab Al-Mufrad
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ، أَنَّ أَبَا الزَّاهِرِيَّةِ حَدَّثَهُ، عَنْ جُبَيْرِ بْنِ نُفَيْرٍ، عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ أَنَّهُ قَالَ‏:‏ إِذَا أَحْبَبْتَ أَخًا فَلاَ تُمَارِهِ، وَلاَ تُشَارِّهِ، وَلاَ تَسْأَلْ عَنْهُ، فَعَسَى أَنْ تُوَافِيَ لَهُ عَدُوًّا فَيُخْبِرَكَ بِمَا لَيْسَ فِيهِ، فَيُفَرِّقَ بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ‏.‏
Mu'adh ibn Jabal said, "When you have love for your brother, do not quarrel with him or treat him badly nor ask questions about him, It may be that an enemy of his will appear and say something about him which is not true and will thereby cause a split between you."
Reference: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 545
In-book : Book 30, Hadith 8
English translation : Book 30, Hadith 545